This guide will try to help you understand the differences between most kinds of adult sex toys.
If you're new to sex toys, take a minute to discover the many reasons why they are so popular and why every woman, man and couple should have (at least) one.
Q: What is the difference between a Vibrator and a Dildo?
A: A vibrator is a device powered by electricity that delivers fast, reliable vibrations much more intensely than a hand, penis or mouth. This is why vibrators are often recommended by doctors and therapists as an effective way to help you achieve an orgasm.
Vibrators come in a huge variety of shapes and sizes. You can get penis shaped vibrators, egg shaped vibrators and even animal shaped vibrators.
Because vibrator orgasms can be more intense and are easier to achieve, they can soon become an important and regular part of your sex life.
A rabbit is a special type of vibrator with a clitoral attachment, usually shaped like a 'split tongue'.
A dildo, unlike a vibrator, does not vibrate and is designed for insertion.
It is designed for either vaginal or anal insertion. Many dildos can be used on their own, others, called strap-on dildos or simply strap-ons, enable hands-free penetration by a partner. Strap on sex is a common practice amongst both straight and gay couples.
Some straight men enjoy penetration by their partner, which stimulates their prostrate gland.
Men in straight relationships can wear a dildo to experiment with double penetration on their partner, or to prolong sexual intercourse after their own erection has subsided or before intercourse to lengthen the experience for their lover.
Combining a dildo and a vibrator may provide the ultimate experience for many women.
Q: What is a Clitoral Vibrator?
A: Clitoral vibrators are normally smaller, friendlier looking and better for beginners using a vibrator for the first time. They are often less intimidating than phallic shaped vibrators. Most women admit to being able to orgasm easier through direct clitoral stimulation. While standard vibrators can easily help women achieve this, clitoral vibrators are used uniquely for this pleasure.
Some are hand held such as the Pocket Rocket, while others can be worn. There are even remote control vibrators that allow one partner to participate in pleasuring the other with their choice of clitoral vibrator.
A: The g-spot is located on the front wall of the vagina, approximately one inch in size. G-spot vibrators are designed for insertion, and usually have a curved tip to stimulate this, sometimes difficult to find, area.
G-spot orgasms are very intense and powerful, and feel different from a clitoral or vaginal orgasm. If you find the vibrations of a g-spot vibrator too distracting, a curved tip dildo may be a great alternative.
A: Male sex toys again come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Vibrators are much discussed, and have become socially acceptable in much of the Western world as they have helped women learn about their body, and to achieve orgasm easier.
However, men also enjoy playing with toys, as vibration can feel great on the penis, anus, testicles or perineum.
A vibrating sleeve or artificial vagina is great for male masturbation to give often more powerful sensations. Some are very lifelike and can simulate intercourse for the man.
There are also penis rings that in their simplest form can be used as erection enhancers. More couple friendly vibrating versions aim to stimulate both partners during sex.
Many men also enjoy sex dolls, and again there is a huge variety on the market to suit every budget.
A: As their name suggests, anal sex toys are used in the anal area and come in vibrating or non vibrating versions.
Anal sex toys that bulge in the middle are called butt plugs, and are often left in place during sex. Anal beads are different sized beads strung together. They are designed to be inserted one by one and then pulled out gently using a loop at the end of the beads. Anal toys shaped like small dildos are good for penetration and are often the choice for stimulating men.
Anal toys should have a flared base to stop them being drawn in by the body, and, used with a good quality lubricant, can provide stimulation that feels good for women and men.
A: It is important to clean your toy both before and after you use it in order to avoid a bacterial infection.
The best way to clean your toy is to rinse it with a little hot water, apply special sex toy cleaner (which is both antibacterial and safe to use on most sex toys), and then rinse again.
Be careful to read your particular toys instructions due to the fact some toys may be damaged by using water. Some sex toys such as glass vibrators are non porous so only require a quick spray of the cleaner and wipe clean.
Q: Can I get my vibrator fixed if it breaks?
A: Due to hygiene reasons, we do not accept any returns. However, in the unlikely event of your sex toy breaking, most high quality sex toys are covered by a manufacturer's warranty lasting between 30 days and 2 years. Just make sure to keep any receipts and invoices should you require assistance.
Q: What material sex toy should I opt for?
A: Sex toys come in a number of different materials from hard plastic and glass to softer latex, silicone, rubber and jelly. It is entirely up to you which material you decide on as it depends what type of toy you are looking for and for what purpose.
Q: What should I do if I crack my glass dildo?
A: Unfortunately, if your glass dildo breaks, cracks, or shatters, it is no longer safe to use as a sex toy. Please read any special instructions that come with your glass sex toy before using it for the first time.
Q: How do I heat my glass sex toy up safely?
A: Most glass sex toys can be heated or cooled for additional stimulation, but read the instructions that came with your toy to make sure you don't accidentally crack or break your glass toy.
The safest and proper way to heat your glass toy takes about 30 minutes. Make sure your toy is at room temperature to start. Get a large bowl or pan and add very warm tap water directly from the sink to the bowl. Completely submerge the glass in warm water for about 5 minutes. Carefully pour out water from the bowl, leaving the glass partially under water. Fill remainder of bowl with very hot water and allow it to stand for 20-25 minutes away from heat.
Always test temperature before using glass dildos as the glass can burn skin at high heat. Remember, glass holds its heat very well.
Q: How do I cool my glass toy down safely?
A: Since glass insulates and holds temperatures, cooling your piece may provide additional sensory stimulation. Use the same process to safely cool your piece as you used to heat it, only you will be substituting cool tap water for the very warm tap water and ice water complete with ice cubes instead of very hot water. This Process should also take about a half an hour.
Q: How do I clean and maintain my glass dildo?
A: Cleanliness is one of the most important points in choosing glass over rubber, plastic or silicone sex toys. We always recommend that you clean all your sex toys before and after each use.
We recommend that you use a antibacterial sex toy cleaner but, if you'd like to keep it as simple as possible, you can use warm water with a mild soap that won't cause any negative reaction or irritation the next time you will use it. Thoroughly dry it with a soft towel.
Some glass toys can even be put in a dishwasher if you like, but please make sure to read your toys instructions first. Only use a dishwasher if the instructions specifically state that it is dishwasher safe.
A: We can't say it enough: lubricate, lubricate, lubricate!
Everyone has a dry spell, and everyone needs lube during anal play, so researching the best lube, prior to playing, is always a good idea. When buying a lube always keep in mind how you will be using it and on what toys. The wrong lube can lead to erosion, stains or even vaginal irritation. Read the labels - it'll save you problems later!
The most common types of lubricants are:
Q: Sex toys intimidate my lover. How can I get my lover to try a sex toy?
A: The key to introducing sex toys to your partner is to make sure he or she knows that the toys are to enhance your sexual adventures, not to make up for something that is lacking (i.e. you do not want to make your partner feel inadequate). Try using a toy on your partner first, to show them how much fun it can be, then suggest they use the toy on you. You may also want to find a toy that will stimulate both partners at the same time.
Q: I have a hard time achieving an orgasm. How can a vibrator help me?
A: The ability to stimulate a specific area and have control of the speed in which you do stimulate that area is the reason a vibrator is so helpful. For some people using a toy is what helps create the erotic atmosphere in which they feel most comfortable orgasming.
Q: How do I know what type of vibrator to buy? Can you give me some tips on what type of vibrator to buy?
A: A good vibrator to begin with is a soft-feel traditional with multi speed. Waterproof Massagers are also an option that would give you more flexibility when it comes to places to play.
What type to buy depends upon what you desire.
Once you know what gets you off you'll have no problem finding a vibrator to match that need.
Q: I am worried that my lady receives more pleasure from the vibrator than from me.
A: Introducing toys into the bedroom can be intimidating. Some men believe that, if they were satisfying their partner completely, they wouldn't have any need for toys. You have to stop thinking along those lines; toys are for enhancing sexual romps not replacing them. Become the king of the bedroom by using the vibrator on your partner. YOU be in control of the play. YOU be the one bringing them to orgasm.
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